looking for your help and opinions.ES would like to ask a boy in his class for tea b ut i am unsure whether he should approach the mum or should it be me.ES would be upset if she said no and i feel she might as ES has a bit of a rep as a Wild boy.he has had other kids in the class for tea without trouble but 2 are related and the other he has known since a baby . this boy is lovely as is his mum but not sure whether ES is her idea of who her boy should be friends,what do you all think
I'd ask his Mum, but don't say anything about your ES's 'rep'. If she's heard anything then it's up to her whether or not she believes this affects their friendship. If she hasn't heard anything you'll look odd inviting her son then giving reasons why she shouldn't accept!!
thanks folks thats what i thought.
Good luck, I do hope she doesn't let reputation influence her decision and fwiw I would ask the mum myself too - I think it's just normal school play-date protocol, or it always was when mine were primary age.
ursh x
regardless of any reputation if my kids wanted to go I'd say yes, and if they didn't I'd say no.
So if he was mine it would depend entirely on whether my son wanted to come - I'd get my child to ask HER child 'do you want to come to tea Friday' and if the boy said 'yes' then he'd say 'I'll get my mum to ask your mum if you can'.
My kids tend to sound out their friends and make tentative arrangements themself and then come to me for rubberstamping and grown up arranging.
I don't particularly like my DD being asked to do something by another child, because she inevitably says yes and it makes it very awkward for me to then wriggle out of it if I want to!!
I would ask the mum generally about coming round for tea, and if the vibes are positive you could offer a few dates for her to choose. I wouldn't personally say, "Can John come to tea this Friday?" because he may have something else planned, but if his mum just says "no" you will then be in a pickle about offering another date!
How old is your DS? Would it be possible for mum to come round for a cup of coffee whilst the children play, if that would make it easier for her to accept. If she has other children to look after, she will probably refuse but you could always make the offer.
mum works leeds so i only ever see her at end of school as she starts very early morn.ES is just turned 7 .think im going to sound her out about general kids socially and see what feed back is.
I would ask the mum myself.
yeh i would ask mum too.
i remeber having 2 of wills mates round at the same time,never again! one of the little monkeys thought it was ok to go seetee bouncing and being a little nightmare,needless to say i diddnt invite him again.
I had one of those once too Shazz. Little sod refused to sit to the table because "I don't have to at home". Then refused to eat his tea because "I don't like it and my mum lets me have yoghurt instead". I was ready for strangling him by the time I had to take him back to his mother!
You should ask the mum